UPDATE: My (20f) boyfriend (21m) ‘confessed’ to killing his brother. What do I do?

Original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/tzbjkl/my_20f_boyfriend_21m_confessed_to_killing_his/) (it’s been deleted by mods but hopefully you can still read it. If not, I’ll copy and paste it below).

So a lot of people were asking for an update and I’m a little scared posting it, because I know people will be mad at me. We’re not dating (I’ve moved) but it’s more to sort everything out.

I told my therapist (who I’ve been seeing for years) and his therapist about the whole situation. They told me to go with my gut and that I should start writing in a diary about his behaviour. I quickly realised that he had missed nearly a 2 weeks of his meds as well as his mood stabilisers (he hasn’t been formally diagnosed with bipolar, but is being treated for symptoms of it). I reminded him gently and he got super upset at himself and is back on track. He doesn’t even remember what he said or did. I didn’t tell him, but asked if he remembered being in the hot-tub and he said no. He has dealt with memory issues in the past, but it was never anything to be worried about.

He’s spent the month in hospital (he wasn’t eating whilst off his meds and was very sick + psychosis) and I’ve been using this time to sort everything out. I told his parents what happened (with help from my therapist) and they got super confused. Turns out, there was security footage that pointed directly at the lake where 6 drowned. It was a total accident (I won’t go into detail, but Michael was nowhere near the scene). According to Michael’s mother, that footage is the only thing that helped them find 6, as he had begun to drift away by the time they got back. I had no idea of this detail, no one ever told me and it would have been really inappropriate to ask.

I mentioned what Michael said about his father and he broke down. He said that he was particularly hard on Michael after the death of 6, but eased up as he got older. He’s increased his therapy sessions to 3 times a week and is planning to move in with his parents when he gets discharged from the hospital.

I also want to clarify that the incident in the last post is the first time he’s ever put his hands on me in a violent/ threatening manner. That’s what made me so shocked. I know people will be mad at me, but we (his parents and I) think this is the best thing for everyone right now.

I got so many messages asking for an update and I thank you all who sent me kind messages and advice. I know some people will be mad, but all I can ask is that you be respectful.