Hi, all! New to this sub but I desperately need help, advice, reassurance, or anything you can offer.
My boyfriend (21M) and I (24F) have been together for almost 7 months. He’s the first person I’ve been with that makes me feel like I’ve had good sex. But, he won’t participate in foreplay. I’ll go down on him on occasion, but he’s said he doesn’t really care for the feeling. He’s reassured me that it’s nothing to do with my skill, he just prefers sex. I enjoy giving oral but if he doesn’t want to receive, that’s fine.
The part that does bother me is that he won’t go down on me or use his fingers. The only way I get to finish is if I use a toy on myself. Occasionally he helps, but usually he just holds me until I finish then we have sex. I’ve explained to him how important the foreplay is for me and he’s said that it’s a sensory issue for him. He doesn’t like the moisture from my body on his fingers or face. He has ADHD and has trouble with sensory things outside of sex, so I try to be understanding but it makes me feel like he doesn’t care about my pleasure. Has anyone else experienced this? If so, how did you and your partner overcome it? I love him dearly but I do not feel fulfilled sexually.
Thanks in advance!