I’m wary of asking Reddit for advice on this, but here goes.
I think of myself as a pretty lenient person. I don’t ever judge people based on looks, height, occupation, etc. My main 3 criteria are as follows: kind, healthy, and intelligent.
However, there is one dealbreaker I have in particular that I’m not sure I can sustain. I don’t like substances. Alcohol, weed, other drugs, etc. I don’t want them anywhere near me. I’ve come to understand all of these are extremely popular among the young folks in my dating pool (20-24 years). Seeing someone when they are drunk/high/under the influence is the most unattractive thing in the world to me.
(I also avoid substances because I had a cancer scare in the recent past, I was lucky to escape with my life).
I feel as though this isn’t a big ask, but I’m beginning to think I’m mistaken. Literally everyone uses. Do I need to let this one go?