As title suggests, I’m in my early 30s F and currently only seeking casual hookups with men since taking a break from intentional dating, however after vetting potential partners for chemistry over chats on dating apps/SM and getting to the actual point of meeting up I get left on delivered, ghosted, or blocked. I have now experienced 3 separate occasions where I have initiated interest in hooking up when the guy said he is on his way only to disappear/get stood up. Communication leading up is always flirty banter & exchange of sexy pics, but when it comes time to physically engage they vanish.
I consider myself to be a fairly attractive girl (definitely in a cute sexy as opposed to siren sexy way), I take care of myself and image, and have my own place. These last L’s have me questioning myself and confidence and utterly confused at what actually motivates men to go MIA when engaging in hookup culture. Do I just quit initiating because it comes off as too forward? Please help me understand.
Edit: can confirm that all parties are verified/not catfishing from pics & video chats