I can carry conversations. Asking about the other person is a good way. But it usually ends up with a pretty dry, boring, small-talk level conversation.
I have some extroverted friends and they make it fun. I don’t know how, but they open topics or says hit that ends up with everyone in the conversation laughing and smiling and having a good time. If I’m with these guys, I can keep up by just responding to them. But I want to be able to have this kind of conversation too.
The issue is there when talking to men, women, real life, texts, dates. (I’m a man btw)
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Be in the moment, exercise more, and eat a healthy diet
Check Vanessa Van Edward’s YouTube channel, she literally wrote the book on this.
When speaking with people do you actually care about their answers or do you just find yourself thinking about how to respond next? I find if I’m talking with someone in which I can’t connect with, in turn the conversation will be dry and boring. I can also sense when someone doesn’t actually care about what I’m saying, and is just responding.
You’re not going to have deep meaningful conversations with everyone you meet, some of them will be surface level. You have to put in effort to a conversation to get more out of it!
What are your weirdest interests? What unpopular opinions do you hold?
Don’t worry about being boring, just try to find people that share your same interests. If you are fun but aren’t actually getting anything from the interaction than you will feel very empty. I used to do this and then I realized that my friends barely knew who I really was because I knew they wouldn’t share my interests.