My high libido is ruining our marriage

My (40M) sex drive/libido is negatively impacting our 17 year marriage. I’m a very sexual person in nearly every way imaginable – craving sex, exploring new sexual fantasies, nudist resorts, etc. My wife (39) is far less so, but we try to meet each other somewhere in the middle. The problem is, the middle ground leaves me incredibly sexually frustrated and unfortunately my mood reflects it. I absolutely hate that I do it, but when my advances are rejected or ignored I slip into a negative mood that is driving my wife away from me. I’m very open with my feelings and communicate my needs/desires very clearly. I encourage her to do the same and she tries her best to open up about her wants and needs. Her needs are not of a sexual nature and I completely understand and respect the difference. I’ve made it a priority to meet her 3 basic needs (security, comfort, and fun/happiness), but at the same time I struggle with happiness when my needs don’t seem to be met. I know this is a me problem, and that our needs/happiness are our own issue to solve, but how do I meet my own sexual needs so that I don’t put that pressure on her? Please help!