I make every conversation awkward and I'd like some help. I feel so much shame from it.
So I can start a conversation just fine, usually with pretty shallow questions like how have you been and what was your weekend like etc but after they reply there won't be a lot more left to say. doesn't matter if it's over text or irl with people from irl.
I find it hard to figure out when I should integrate open ended questions for example, or when I forcefully try to do so it comes up weird. anything I attempt comes out weird to be honest. I find conversations don't survive for a long time and we often stay at shallow topics.
Sometimes I end up sharing about myself without the person asking (of course not much and not overhearing, just a simple fact related to the conversation) because i know what I can say about this and the conversation doesn't progress. But it's never that they ask me any questions. Sometimes I just get stuck after a bit if interactions, or it stays in a shallow topic and never moves on to something else. I also don't know how to change topics of conversation naturally.
I feel like a loser and I'm totally unable to make friends. How do I fix this.