I just keep thinking about this, and I needed to ask you all. I chose to accept my wife's want to get a dissolution after 3 years of marriage and 4 years of being together. I know this seems like a short amount of time, but it is what it is.
My wife and I had a big conversation about a week ago, and that was when I agreed to it. I believe she thinks I did because she cheated on me emotionally with a dude she met online, but that is not my main reason… I know marriages can work through infidelity of different shapes and forms, hell, some work through it multiple times. The reason I agreed to it was because she admitted to not thinking she wants the marriage with me, and not being happy since before our wedding…
I had no inkling this was how she felt, until that night. I just thought there was some stuff we needed to work through and we were just settling into married life, but she said some stuff she went though made her realize that she hasn't been happy since before our wedding in 2021. Before my wife figured that out, she thought she hadn't been "happy" since April/May of 2023(right after our son was born so I chalked it up to postpartum), but to find out she has been miserable since way before then… it just hurt a lot and I don't want to keep making her life miserable…
Is this a good reason to hold strong and continue with the dissolution, even when my wife shows remorse and such. I kind of believe it is, but I just can't help but thinking that marriages have worked through much worse, and I am also not the one who ever WANTED to get a dissolution. I just accepted it so I can hopefully make her life better. Any advice anyone?