i have this friend who I used to message a good deal. but recently they have just stopped responding to 90% of my messages and then they go and start messaging or join a public call in a mutual discord server or are talking to people in game chat, and when i message them they dont respond there either
idk why they are doing this we had been getting closer as friends
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Probably they don’t value talking to you as much compared to other people. People always subconsciously attach you to the quality of conversations you have with them, especially those that are face to face or in person. Main thing is you need to be self confident and bring positive vibes, which encourage people to keep interacting with you. You need to genuinely connect with them. You need to show interest in them by asking about themselves and listen and pay attention to what they say. You also have to be able to confidently express yourself when they ask you questions. Also, find ways to impact their lives. Maybe you have a skill, hobby, or talent, that aligns with their interests or can help them. If so, bring it up and offer to help them ! People will respect you a lot more when you can impact their lives.
In general, people are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation. They instead gravitate towards somebody who is self confident and well rounded in life.