I F22 have been seeing this guy M31 for quite some time now- about 6 months. Things have been going good however there's one thing that really bugs me. Everytime he upsets me or hurts me in an argument, I try to tell him how I feel and then he just shuts down. Exclaims that he feels like a terrible boyfriend and just gets all depressed to a point where I cannot say anything. Every single time he hurts me and I say what I feel, he spins it around and goes on about how shitty he feels and I make him feel like a terrible person.
Everytime that he speaks about his problems with me, I take it in and apologize. However, when I tell him about the things that upset me, he says that we keep going in circles or it never ends and he has a hard time apologizing.
Any advice? Or what do I do in this situation as I can never get him to see my side cuz then he feels shit and that makes me feel bad because I care about him
** TL;DR **
When I'm upset and hurt with how he makes me feel and let him know, he shuts down and says hesd depressed and keeps going on about how terrible he is as a boyfriend and that I make him feel like a terrible person when that is NEVER my intention.
How do I help him ? I have reassured him but when he gets better he never asks if im okay or if i feel better and lightened abiut the situation. My friends think its crazy hes 31 and acting this way
Also I apologize for my english