so i recently left the church i was going to at the end of March. I orientation was going to look for another church & then deconstruction snuck up on me & decided I don’t want to attend church right now. I don’t have a special goal when it comes to deconstruction, maybe I’ll go back to church down the road, maybe not. With growing up in the church I always planned on waiting for marriage until recently where I decided I don’t believe in / want to continue doing that. I definitely don’t want to participate in hook up culture especially knowing that the topic of sex growing up was a taboo topic to talk about unless your were married & so honestly as much as I am excited to have sex whenever that happens im also very nervous considering im 24 years old.
But im wondering on how to bring the topic of sex up now when dating? I think I’d like to wait until the relationship is pretty secure especially with past experiences of guys leading me on & having some trust issues when it comes to dating outside of sex being involved. But when is a good time to bring the topic up? What kind of questions should I be asking? Also when it comes to birth control. I don’t have a plan on getting on birth control anytime soon. I have never used birth control & i definitely don’t like the idea of going on the pill & from what I’ve heard from others an IUD makes me nervous. Any advice would be very appreciated.