Hi, I’m 28, female, and my husband (27M) feels like I’m not sexually attracted to him because I don’t initiate anything intimate. Intimacy is an important part of relationships to him. We have been married for 4 years, dating for 8.
I was also on birth control for 4 years of dating him, once I was off of it (bc we wanted to try conceiving after getting married), I noticed my sex drive started to go down. Turns out I have PCOS. Then I gave birth to our daughter January 2023, and my sex drive is pretty much nonexistent. He tries to do anything intimate with me and I either tell him “not tonight” or I brush it off without realizing.
I want to be intimate with my husband. He is the only person I want, he is my soul mate and it crushes me that he feels that I don’t want him. I have tried reassuring him but I feel like a broken record and not doing anything about it.
Does anyone have any advice? Please.