What are some SFW and NSFW green flags you look for in a partner?

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  2. NSFW green flags? A high degree of sexual attraction and enthusiasm.

    SFW green flags? She really likes my man scent.

    If you have a choice between a woman who likes how you smell after getting dirty and a woman who only likes how you smell if you’re slathered in cologne, take the woman who’ll still like how you smell the morning after.

  3. SFW? Treating service staff respectfully

    NSFW? Sending me unprompted lewds or nudes with a nice lil personal message

  5. High sex drive. Dead bedrooms happen and they ruin relationships. And women’s sex drives tend to decrease significantly with time so if you’re starting at a low sex drive it will likely only get worse from there.

  6. SFW: Shows genuine thoughtfulness for the people around them, not just themself or their immediate group.

    NSFW: Keeps our private sex life or personal sexual information private, rather than sharing it with others.

  7. I actually made a list of those after my divorce.

    SFW: Knows what they want. Can be relied on. Initiates making plans together equally. Is looking for honest communication. Has similar personalities in private and in public.

    NSFW: Comfortable with themselves sexually, enthusiastic, doesn’t have major issues with sex and shares kinks.

  8. SFW: actively listens to me and makes an effort to learn about my interests, has her ways of showing she cares/thinks of me, knows how to communicate with you about concerns and reminds you you’re a team

    NSFW: respects boundaries and communicates outside the bedroom, willing to try things that tickle my fancy (that they’re ok with)

  10. Nearly all of the responses come down to:

    * Be kind
    * Display self-awareness
    * Be direct and honest

  11. NSFW green flag: doesn’t shame during vulnerable sexual moments and kinks. My exwife was so sex negative that it took the fun out of it. She made me feel ashamed for asking her to keep her heels on during sex. Which, I feel, is pretty tame in terms of kinks

  12. SFW : Is really sweet and kind to me and others, confident, assertiveness, direct, etc

    NSFW : Well, send some pics/snaps unexpectedly and hopefully match most of my kinks lol

  13. SFW: shows genuine interest in things I enjoy (two way street). when we are spending time together not being on her phone constantly

    NSFW: proper hygiene, isn’t grossed out by kissing your partner after oral (also a two way street), comfortable and vocal in telling you what they like in the bedroom so everyone can have a good time

  14. SFW: Always checks up on you throughout the day to make sure your okay and genuinely shows that they care

    NSFW: Always asks for permission (whether its a male or female) no matter what

  15. i’m simple touch up on me after we do the deed. i hate my limp sausage being out but still focusing on me or giving love like dam girl 🥹🤤

  16. SFW: loves animals

    Nsfw:doesn’t Love animals lol

    (no it’s not been a historical issue was originally just saying loves animals then humor happened)

  18. TBH when I look at women I see barrels of money on fire or calendars of social stuff that I don’t want to do or physical labour and DIY bullshit that I also don’t want to do.

    I don’t think there are green flags tbh

  19. She is passionate about things in her life . She doesn’t lash out when she’s angry or distressed, and most important of all, she reads dirty romance books 🥰

  20. SFW:

    • Comes from a good family/wholesome background. *Particularly*, has a good relationship with the men in her life.

    • Is in *touch* with her sex appeal, but does not *define* herself or her image by it.

    • Has good character and morals/values.

    NSFW:

    • Is enthusiastic, reciprocal, and willing to experiment in bed.

  22. SFW: similar humour, being secure in goals, career – don’t mind what exactly, but be ambitious, able to hold eye contact and taking care of themselves

    NSFW: no stds, being experienced as in not me being your first partner – also having a “healthy” (for my taste) mix of ons/flings/fwb and sex w a partner in a serious relationship, being open to try things in the bedroom

  23. SFW: doesn’t judge me for being emotional, I’m not an emotional guy (relatively) but when I am it’s serious and I need a partner who can comfort me in those moments

    NSFW: likes to have sex pretty often

  24. SFW: keeps our issues between us (not running off and telling everyone when we fight) and doesn’t play games when it comes down to telling me what the issue is

    NSFW: encouraging me to pursue her with dirty talk or teasing me. Keep the passion going.

  25. SFW: communicates openly and honestly and doesn’t play games

    NSFW: shows initiative, is unambiguous about desires and boundaries, and again, communicates thoroughly. Consent and communication are sexy.

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