I (28f) know most men don't care about the whole wedding stuff and the bride usually does the large part of planning. But I wanna know how involved men are during the planning. Or did you just show up and said your vows? And what would you do in my position?
My best friend's (28f) planning her wedding at the end of this year all by herself and I can't help thinking why her fiance(36m) does very little to help. It's 5mo away and the groom side hasn't even had the fix number of guests they're gonna invite. Takes 3-4 months to print the invitations and makes the souvenirs. He also keeps postponing going to jeweler for their custom wedding rings, which also takes another 4mo to make. It sounds like alarm bells to me but my friend said he's very much a homebody, doesn't like going out, that's why it's hard to get him to go somewhere and deal with these stuff. To get marriage license is another long process in my country where you need letters from the head of your neighborhood community, then the head of regional committee, then get complete health check up in hospital, then go to civil affair office, and only then, will they be able to get the marriage registration form. Those letters take at least 3 months after you submit a request, if there's no delay that is. She kept asking him to go to civil affair office to get the clear procedure and time frame, and he also keeps postponing it with "later". I honestly dunno if this is normal behavior for men who don't care about wedding planning in general but still wanna marry the girl? I wanna tell her this is quite alarming but don't wanna overstep anything. How should I deliver my concern to her? Or should I just stay quiet? I keep thinking what if this is their dynamic after marriage too, where she does everything and he does very little and only does it after she asks him to do it; not per his own initiative.