My bf 22M and I 20F got into an argument about me not initiating sex. I have trouble with it due to discomfort due to a fear of rejection. We’ve talked about it a few times but I hate it because I feel so guilty and end up getting too anxious. I really really want to initiate but I lack so much self confidence in that area! I’d be so embarrassed if I got rejected.
Im not the type of person that needs sex AT ALL! I just believe some level sexual intimacy is necessary in a relationship in my experience. Yes, I’m in therapy lol.
We sort of stopped having sex a few weeks ago that’s why this topic came up today. He said it was mostly because of our frequent arguments, his health and slightly this issue. I think he’s completely valid to want your girlfriend to start initiating because if he stopped I’d feel so unwanted. I definitely see his side I just don’t know where to start. I want to be better for him and us. I need to change my mindset somehow!
TL;DR: tips on how to get over fear of rejection sexually in my relationship?