My (21f) boyfriend (24m) and I have been together for about 6 months. We’ve only been sexually active for about 2 months and I was a virgin before dating him so I’m still learning what makes me feel good, how to make him feel good, etc. When it comes to me pleasing him, I had a general idea of what to do but in the beginning I’d ask him what he liked, etc and would try my best to do so to get him to orgasm, and he has. Unfortunately this hasn’t been the case for me. In all the times we’ve had sex, I’ve never orgasmed. I mentioned this to him and he said “it’s really hard to make a girl cum”. Obviously I wouldn’t know, but from reading this subreddit I see that it’s common for women to not orgasm with a partner. I’m able to get there on my own, so I have an idea of what gets me there already if that makes sense.
Anyway, yesterday he wanted to use his hands on me, and I was okay with it. However, he started to and it wasn’t in the right “spot” if you get me. So I moved his hand and told him what to do. We had to stop since we needed to go somewhere, so I didn’t finish once again. This morning though he said “you need to stop telling me what to do, it makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing”. This surprised me, as I didn’t think it would be a problem. Shouldn’t he be okay with learning how to help me get there? If it was me, I’d gladly take the advice if it meant my partner feeling good. Is this a red flag? How should I go about having a conversation about this? I don’t want to offend him since it feels like I already did, but his lack of effort is starting to get a bit frustrating.