For me, it’s been pretty terrible. No one is genuine. Everyone has 20 different opinions and other people to talk to which is fine. Just no one puts in effort anymore. It’s all about texting and that’s not a good way to get to know someone. Just feeling stuck in this dating world lol any advice ? I’m
On dating apps, but not the best luck.
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keep going and set boundaries for yourself so you don’t waste your time
>I’m On dating apps
Found the problem.
I feel a little bad but I can’t relate at all. Besides the occasional weirdo who sneaks through a chat coming off as charming or smart, most of the people I’ve met (I’m 34m, dating women) are great and seem really wonderful. Even if we’re not a good fit I’ve been really glad to meet most of them, and one of them I’m friends with now.
I’ve been seeing someone casually for a few weeks now and met someone else just last week, who I think I’m going to see more instead, but they’re both really wonderful and kind women. It’s not an easy decision, which is a huge compliment.
I haven’t had a good time since 2016. Ain’t just you and it ain’t new
Get off the apps, and into real life
Agreed. It’s a nightmarish hellscape out here. Only advice I have is to keep your head up, keep your eye on the prize and hope for the best, I wish you better luck than me cause I know there’s little chance of me catching a long term win anytime soon 😂🤣
Dating in your 20s sucks too. Dating period in this day and age just seem impossible
I absolutely loved dating in my 30s. Was significantly more fun and rewarding than my 20s. For the first time in my life every girl I interacted with wanted to meet someone decent and settle down instead of some half cocked adrenaline junky with a motorcycle. I was suddenly very desirable.
I don’t know what you’re doing wrong to be struggling in your 30s. The things that worked super well for me were, use the dating apps to establish a connection. Text or call as soon as you have something going and invite the girl to dinner. Meet at the restaurant and have dinner. Ask her questions and follow up questions. Tell her a few things about yourself that she might find entertaining, keep the focus on her though so you show you’re trying to get to know her. Afterwards go do something fun. A bar, a comedy show, a painting and wine class, etc. If you hit it off, give her a good kiss goodnight and then call her the next day to say you had a great time and would love to see her again. Don’t try to get her back to your apartment. Women in their early 30s will sense you just want to get laid and that’ll turn them off.
It’s not that hard once you go through the motions a few times. Just don’t be an ass and try to have fun.
Why does it feel so daunting
I can’t bring myself to try- I know what I want in life and the kind of man I want, i know I won’t get that on apps etc
I’m getting divorced- I just feel scared of getting hurt
I’m so fed up of life just being work and home and errands and faking it all the time
It gets exhausting
Believe me there are some women out there that do want what you are offering….they aren’t worth your time if they can’t see how special you are regardless…… someone amazing will come along. I myself have been having issues with dating and have the same complaints…. I put a lot of effort and energy into people that aren’t really there for the right reasons.
It takes work (personality, grooming) and you need to be desirable. Dating in my 30s was the best.
well I can comfort you and say that it’s exactly the same problems I face as a 21yo
Yeah, I just online dating as in cracked up or to be some people get lucky but a lot of people don’t . a lot of the women I’ve talked to on there talking to 20 other guys while talking to me so if there is one thing that they don’t like about you or disagree with, and it’s on the next person instead of understanding peoples point of views and trying to understand a person it’s just like let’s move onto the next person. It is what it is. I wish there was more of a dating app or you could video chat with someone if anyone knows any dating apps like that let me know
35M here, I’ve definitely found late 20’s early 30’s women are more mature and know what they want. Far less time wasters and flakers. They’re more direct with fewer games. More confident with showing affection and with intimacy
Enjoying this much more than when I was in my 20’s
40s even suckier
I have to disagree, dating now is pretty easy and apps help to clear the first hurdle – everyone on the app is looking for someone. Just have to find someone that you vibe with. Your troubles might be self-inflicted.
I’ll put it bluntly: Are you taking care of yourself, your fitness and appearance? Do you have a career? Do you have a lifestyle that would be appealing to a potential partner? Hobbies, interests that show off your personality? If not those are the things you should focus on, and drop the unlucky-in-love sad sack self-pity, nobody thinks that’s attractive.
I bet $100 the OP is female. I’ve never heard of males complain about not enough “effort”
Maybe your expectations are the problem
33f here. I have given up. I better meet someone the old fashioned way- lock eyes across the room 😂
Adapt or suffer
This is why you need to minimize the time between texting and actual dates.
A few good texts on the dating app. And then you go, “You seem cool. Let’s go for coffee. ”
Schedule a lot of dates, and don’t put all of your eggs in one basket.
It’s your time as well, and there’s no reason why someone else should waste it.
One of the BIGGEST issues I’ve heard women complain about is how guys don’t ask them out. They just text because they’re afraid and waiting for “the right moment.”