It’s not quite stonewalling or silent treatment- it seems more covert by way of him shutting down. He’s less conversational, less affectionate, starts only saying “bye” instead of “love you bye” when I leave to work types of things. He kind of shuts down and avoids eye contact- he becomes quite cold and it can go on for weeks until I bring it up. He gets very distant. I think it’s when we aren’t being intimate as often? But we aren’t intimate unless I initiate it now that we have a kid (16 mo old) because I was so put off from sex for a while following the birth. So on the weeks I’m tired or just lots going on with life and work I don’t always have the energy to initiate it. But I am also not actively telling him no all the time I’ve made a massive effort to make sure we are intimate on the nights he’s home which is about 3 nights a week. Seems this behavior follows the weeks I don’t initiate sex all week.
So it’s like maybe he feels he’s not getting his needs met but rather than bring it up (cause he avoids confrontation like the plague) he just pouts and becomes kind of a ghost?
What is this called? It’s not complete stonewalling or silent treatment because it’s not that obvious or aggressive but still makes me feel crazy.