Conversations feel like a tug of war. They’re stressful and unenjoyable. I know the best way to improve is to keep putting yourself out there, but I keep getting the same reactions, so I need to change some things but I don’t know what.
Sometimes I have nothing to say and will just be like “uh huh, yeah! Oh that’s awesome” or I’ll over talk and accidentally interrupt.
Similar to double Dutch jump roping, the secret is to wait until there’s an opening to get in. I cannot get in. The ropes fall flat when I talk to someone.
Calling my friends means me trying desperately to follow the conversation, but then I guess I’m so focus on catching what they’re saying that I have nothing to contribute. Or if a part interests me I’m yapping too long
I try to just try to actively listen, but then I never get a word in.
Also topics. What do people talk about??? My friend talk about her family. Her husband. My other fried talks about his relationship with his partner. Another friend likes to talk about books.
I usually let my friends lead the conversation and I follow. But then when it’s my turn to lead, it all falls flat…
Has anyone struggled like this? Been here before? I’m so desperate and lonely even tho I have people to talk to…