Early 20’s, never been in a serious relationship. I have struggled mightily with depression since I began high school and it continues today despite all the medications and therapy I’ve tried. I’m decent looking, have a good personality, and am generally very good at communicating. I don’t have too much trouble getting matches on dating apps but I run into the same problem with every girl. My loneliness shows. I have such a profound desire for the kind of relationship that takes months to build and I end up saying too much or trying to move fast with every girl.
Recently I watched a girl I once experienced “love at first sight” with enter a relationship with a new guy. I had my chance with this girl long ago and blew it by trying to go too fast. Hearing her describe her own experience with “love at first sight” about this new guy was one of the most painfully sobering moments of my life thus far. I need to make a change, because I don’t think I can survive this pain again.
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Enter into things with no expectations. Take things as they come. Enjoy meeting and learning about new people. Enjoy conversing. If there’s a connection, you’ll know.
It sounds like you are trying to fill a void with a relationship and that will do you more harm than good.