My (f) partner (m) and me are together for 2.5 years. The sex is nice, but not very frequent anymore. I have troubles getting an orgasm witth him. We have been talking about this issue quite a lot in the past. Unfortunately, most of the time it turned into uncomfortable arguments. Once he was even accusing me to 'not cuming on purpose', when we have sex.
I gave him lot's of tips and suggestions to for things to try out and also gave him papers to read about female pleasure and orgasm. It never really came to the point, where we would try out the stuff. He barely touched the papers I gave him to read, because he argued that this was just general information and not specifically about my own experiences.
He enjoys watching porn and solo anal masturbation (extreme anal stretching). I often joined him with the latter, which was completely new for me. So I gathered all information I could get, to give him the most out of the experience. I sort of expected the same thing back.
The relationship besides the sex is beautiful, but also often difficult. He struggles with his depression quite often.
What do you guys think about this? How do I proceed? How can I make this work?