What made you realize a guy isn’t as nice as he seems?

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1. He spoke.

2. The way he behaves under stress.

3. How he reacts to rejection.

4. How he treats people around him.

5. When I found out how much porn he watched.

6. How he handles people with different world views and how he treats women who “serve no purpose” to him specifically, like the woman doesn’t sexually appeal to him or does not offer a motherly role, or is not his superior at work.

7. Gaslighting, lying by omission, insecurities

8. How he treats people when he possibly doesn’t need their help/has got nothing to do with them. Its easy to gauge when someone is genuinely nice or only nice until they get something out of you.

9. He became verbally abusive when angry at me. He didn’t care about me feelings regardless of how many times I explained things to him, he did whatever he wanted so… yeah, not nice

10. With my ex it was when I got hurt while we were having sex and he didn’t care, he just complained about getting blue balls if I didn’t let him finish. The person I created in my head died then. I later confronted him and told him it was wrong but I had such low self esteem that I stayed in the relationship for much longer.

11. I came back from visiting my family and was accused of cheating on the way home from the airport. Not nice, actually wtf? Thanks for the ride, see ya never.

12. I seen the way he treated his mom…

13. How a man treats waiters/waitresses says a lot about him.

14. the way he treats his mom and a waiter. watch out for those