I am F23 and my bf is M25. How to get out of the cycle of saying something wrong and acting out of emotion then realising I was wrong and going to apologise to my partner. Acting out of emotion as in letting my anxieties and insecurities determine my interpretation of things.
Eg In the moment being sad and pissed off that my partner refuses to meet me when there is a logical reasoning behind it, but in that moment im upset he wont meet me and I get sad. And so I say something like “ure a dick” but later I realise yea his logic for not meeting is true and I shouldnt have been upset. Then going and telling him I’m sorry for getting mad you wouldnt meet.
The answer might just be growing up, but I cant seem to learn how to break out of this cycle. My partner hates that I always act and react based on my emotions then apologise. He finds it exhausting, how can I fix this?