I (24M) and my girlfriend (24F), has been going through a rough time lately. She’s always been prone to negativity, but recently it feels like it’s taken over her completely. I know she has a lot on her mind, and I’ve tried to be supportive in every way I can think of. I listen to her, offer solutions, and try to bring some light into her day. Despite my efforts, her negativity persists, and it’s starting to affect our relationship.
Whenever she gets into one of her negative moods, she often says hurtful things to me. She intentionally says like “I don’t really feel happy anymore” or “I think that I need space” or sometimes that she really wanted to feel what she is going through. It’s hard not to take them personally, even though I know she’s struggling with her own issues. I find myself walking on eggshells, trying to avoid triggering anything, but it’s exhausting and disheartening.
I’m at a loss for what to do. I care about her deeply and want to help her through this, but it feels like no matter what I do, it’s never enough. I’m struggling with my own feelings of frustration and sadness. I want to be there for her, but I also need to protect my own mental health. It’s a delicate balance, and I’m not sure how much longer I can keep it up. Is there any way to help my girlfriend?
TL;DR
I (24M) am struggling with my girlfriend’s (24F) constant negativity. Despite trying to support her, she intentionally says hurtful things to me when she is in that mood. I’m unsure how to help her while also protecting my own mental health.