I (24f) gave my bf (25m) of 6 years an ultimatum.
The last time he made me cum or even let me finish was 6 years ago. But ever since year 1, it has been down hill and I have never been more sexually frustrated in my life. He cums after 5-10 minutes of penetration and that simply is not enough for me.
We tried foreplay prior to penetration but he doesn’t like eating out and he sucks at fingering.
I suggested him to do research and even tried helping him look into options to help him last longer but he shuts it down. I know he feels badly for finishing quickly because as soon as he finishes in me I can sense the disappointment radiating off of him.
BUT on that same token, he believes that when he finishes, sex and all sorts of intimacy is over. And I’m just there… horny. He refuses to try again after a bit because he says “it’s impossible to try to get hard after coming” even though years prior he would have no problem with this.
So today, I had enough. I told him sex is important to me and it’s important for the relationship, and if he doesn’t change then I will have no other choice but to reconsider the relationship and break up. Is that harsh? Because he didn’t argue he just turned his back to me and fell asleep.
I want to feel excited to have sex and I miss the times when we used to have.