The last time I was in a partnership with someone who would eventually wanted to have kids was ten or so years ago.
My partner after that (partner of 8 years) was very adamant against kids, my current partner (of 2 years, who is a great match!) is … "not fond of kids", let's put it that way. Also, she does not want to be pregnant, etc., all the stuff and I totally get it.
While I have kinda lived my life from one day to the next since forever, I thus never looked far into the future, so kids never played a real role when thinking about the future. I kinda thought about it like "well, if it's happening, I'm going to be fine with it and like it." But I never thought of myself as definitely wanting to have kids one day.
Now I'm 38 and my SO yesterday, in a talk with someone else, very straight forward denied ever wanting to have kids. I kinda shrugged it off, as it does not tore open a big wound, nor does her statement surprise me. Yet, this – for the first time ever – felt like the definitive confirmation of what was only a possibility up until now: I'll never have kids. Hmm. Not sure how to feel about this clarity.
So, long story short, forgive my ramblings… Those of you, for which having kids just … never happend, not necessarily because this is what you wanted. How do you feel about this?