I moved down to Texas (near San Antonio) from New York with my family almost 3 years ago now. Texas is definitely a lot different from NY (where I lived my whole life up until about 3 years ago) but I do love it here. However, I'm struggling to make friends down here. There are some I can call acquaintances but not really anybody I can truly call a close friend and every now and then this kinda gets me down.
I'm happy I'm here with my family though. I also got a puppy recently which has definitely helped a lot (He's a close friend :)). If it weren't for my little guy and my family being here things would probably become pretty unbearable. My only co-worker is my brother so it's not like I'm meeting new people that way. I joined Meetup and went to some events through several different groups but I haven't clicked with anybody through it yet. The interactions with people through Meetup just feel very superficial and draining. Maybe I just haven't fallen in with the right crowd yet?
Some of my hobbies include:
- Video games, hiking, skiing (although you can't do that in TX lol), working out, checking out the bar/night life scene, riding motorcycles, and shooting guns at the nearby range.
Has anybody ever been in a rut like this? Moving to a new state, in their late 20s and struggling to make new friends where they live now? For anybody who's cracked the code: What did you do? What is some advice you offer? I am still in touch with all of my friends back up in NY, and back when I still lived there (and when I periodically visit back up there) we all would go out to the bars pretty regularly or were always out doing something and I'm trying to recreate something similar to that here. People who I have genuine connections with and can hangout with regularly.