I always have this problem where I hit it off with someone, usually on the apps, and I build them up in my mind as someone I could see a future with. I only realize after the fact that maybe I only liked them because they like me back and gave me affection.
Like the last girl I was dating for example. Only went on 3 dates and talked for over a month. I fell so hard for her, talked every day for hours. It sort of left like we were already a couple. It didn’t end up working as she didn’t have time for a relationship and slow faded away, but it felt like she was a big part of my life, someone I could actually talk to and joke with. Typing that out sounds so stupid in my head as a month is barely anytime, but it hurts going from talking everyday to never basically over night. I am a quite shy and socially anxious person so the idea of meeting someone else on the apps, going though the talking phase, going on first dates again to get the same level of rapport with the last girl discourages me and I delete the apps and stay single for months. Only to repeat the whole cycle when I get lonely enough. How do I keep myself in check and not get so emotionally invested too quickly and save myself from getting overly hurt when it doesn’t work out?
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It’ll eventually fade. You’ll get tired of falling for everyone someday :p
Its easy to get infatuated with anyone quickly when you have little dating experience. Once you get in a relationship that lasts a year or more and it ends, you will start seeing things a lot different and have a harder time falling for people.
Date multiple women at once. Helps you keep the simping at bay.
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Love yourself more and know that you control your future and your happiness, not someone else. When someone meets a lot of what you truly need in a partner, you add them to your life to compliment what you’ve built for yourself.
Date more than 1 person, at a time, seriously!