So I (23M) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for 10 months now. I love him dearly, he's perfect.
For about 8 months he has been suffering from New Daily Persistent Headache (NDPH). This is a chronic illness in which someone has daily debilitating headaches, and this has left him almost housebound. He can only go out for very short amounts of time, he has had to suspend attending university.
NDPH is a very mysterious condition medically, and the doctors have basically just had to work through a series of medicines that might work. None of them have. He now has two more to try, and then… I dunno. There are injectables but they come with risk. The long term is very uncertain.
I love him so much, he's so wonderful and I'm desperate to support him. I feel in my soul that I want to grow old with him. However, I am struggling. I go to his house every week (he lives with his parents), but I really want to go out with him and make memories. Of course, I realise this is far more his struggle than it is mine, but I am starting to wonder what the fuck our "happy ever after" will look like when the future is this uncertain. Has anyone dealt with anything similar to this?