TL;DR;: My boyfriend either always sleeps or works when we meet and I am unhappy in this relationship
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost a year. We see each other twice or thrice a month, or sometimes after three months when he returns from his work trips to the US. Like any girlfriend, I get excited to meet him and expect us to go out and have fun when we meet.
However, whenever we meet, it’s usually at hotels or his place, and 70% of the time, he either sleeps while cuddling me or works. He sleeps only for 3 hours everyday due to work or sometimes he has sleepless nights for 2 days in a row. His work shift aligns with US timings, and he doesn't sleep during the day because of work pressure. So, whenever we meet, he's either too sleepy, too irritated, or too stressed about work. This means he's never in a good mood or in the mood to go out, and all my excitement goes to waste when he sleeps or works. He realizes this and apologizes, but says there's no other option because of his work pressure and family expectations. He insists he doesn’t even have time for himself and he still makes an effort to see me (which is true, as I’ve seen his daily calendar schedule).
Sometimes we meet in a café or another place, but he's still never in a good mood due to his sleepiness or stress. This makes me feel guilty, as if I’m disturbing his sleep cycle or work, and that I’m forcing him to meet me.
I love that he's so ambitious about his career, but I wish we could spend some quality time together where he's actually happy. We've discussed this issue, but nothing seems to be working for us. What’s the solution for this?