In a nutshell, I have a naturally good, friendly relationship with two of my co-workers – even initmate sometimes.
The problem is that I wanted to upgrade it to the next level. I wanted to hang out, just spend time together after work – of course not always, but sometimes, just casually. But I feel like it won't happen.
So I ask your experiences, opinions about this situation. If I want to be honest with myself, I think they love me, truly – but in the workplace, not in their personal life. I even say it would be okay but then why they "plan" hang outs with me usually which ones will never happen?
It bogs and hurts me and I feel like it destroys honest feeling between us from my side. They also has their own social circle so maybe they think we meet at the workplace anyways so they rather meet people whom they met less often – which is also fine, but I mean, never?
In my world, friends spend time together in their free time. And I'm not obsessed at all, this is very important.
Have you ever been or experienced a similar situation? What are your thoughts about this? Most importantly, what's the most mature thing to do? Preserve these friendships, maybe they will bloom when after we quit or job – or we will never talk again? Or just leave them be, cut all ties and move forward?