I have been diagnosed with a terminal illness (M34) for several years. I will die in the next 5 – 10 years. It will happen. Due to anonymity, I don't want to give any details, but it's a rare hereditary disease.
My girlfriend (F31) and I have been a couple for 3 months. I have been transparent from the start about the fact that I am ill. She is still planning a family, children and a life with me. I can't bear to make her so unhappy because she doesn't seem to understand that this won't be possible with me.
The last years of my life will mean 100% care. I don't want to put her through that, even though I love her very much. She denies the fact and holds on to me.
How can I explain to her clearly that her future plans with me are not realisable? How can I make her realise that I can't bend what she wants in life? I don't want her to waste the next 10 years on me, give up her desire to have children and lead an unhappy life.