So just for context I live abroad and am going back to my homecountry where I have a vacation house on an island. It’s the place where I have always invited my my friends over a couple of weeks during summer. This particular friend, about whom the post is, had went many times in the past and we're just that good of a friends that I can understand how he can assume that he is invited there by default. Anyway, this year things have changed a bit cause they brought a baby into this world in April.
For further context, I do not have a partner, but I am very much child free and will remain that way. I don't like kids, never knew how to communicate with kids, never needed and was planning on staying away from small children as much as I can throughout the rest of my life. Now, maybe if I still lived in my homecountry, and met the baby prior, I would think differently, but I haven't even seen the baby!
So yeah, we just talked and he knows when I am going and I am stalling with some distractions, but the thing that I don't understand is how did he assume I want a baby on my holidays in my house. He knows I don't like children, but by nature is a bit more traditional, so maybe he just assumes that I will take over an "uncle roll" or whatever.
Anyway, I have to tell him soon and don't know what do to. Should I be honest? Should I lie to him? I mean, I would have prefered if someone told me white lies in certain situations, so maybe that is not such a bad idea? I don't know. please give me advice.