My boyfriend (M38) and I (F26) have been together for a little over a year now and we only see each other once to twice a week which js weekends only due to us both living an hour away and both working swing shifts. We’ve been alternating weekends going up to see each other because I felt like I was going to see him more. Felt like I was doing more of the sacrificing because it was me doing a lot of using my sick leave hours and leaving work early to drive up to see him or using weekends to see him and spend time with him and his family (comes from a close knit family where they do everything together) I don’t mind that because I was able to get close with them that way but I told him I wanted him to be close with my family also but he never willingly offers to drive down to me unless I literally have to tell him like “hey family wants you to have dinner with us.” He’ll agree to go but he just makes it seem more like he’s being forced to go because of me.
I want us to have an equal in this relationship where one doesn’t feel like they are doing more sacrifice than the other but I don’t know what to do or say..
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