I (26F) have a (25M) friend who I have a huge crush on, but he has a girlfriend who he seems to really like. I don’t know her, because she lives in another city and they don’t see each other every day, but when he talks about her he seems to like her a lot.
Me and him have lot in common, we get along super well, but that’s not uncommon being that we’re friends. What does stand out to me is that he shows genuine, real interest in the things I say and like. He always remembers things I’ve said in the past about myself and things I like, he’s always asking me for my opinion on things, he always helps me with things I don’t know how to do, and he makes sure to support me in my personal projects even if I don’t ask him to (e.g I have a podcast that he’s told me he always listens to even though I never sent it to him).
Although we’ve never had any kind of romantic interaction whatsoever I really feel that we have some kind of connection when we’re together, and I’ve heard from a mutual friend that sometimes when we are all together, in some moments me and him start a side conversation and it looks like we are in our own personal bubble.
I’ve always been as good at making friends with men as with girls, but in my experience so far, most men never show that much interest in someone they’re not attracted to. I at least have never had a male friend who seemed to care this deeply about me or my interests without having any other feelings for me. I can be wrong though, and he can be just a really good friend in general.
Am I getting things wrong?
Edit: To everyone who’s concerned that I might want to act on a man who’s taken, I guarantee you that is not the case. I would never act on it as long as he’s in a relationship and if he ever acts on me while having a girlfriend that will absolutely ruin him for me.
But I do like his friendship and he seems to like mine. I don’t think that’s a problem.
The main question of my post remains: do you guys think most men are capable of being that invested in a woman they’re only good friends with and for whom they want nothing but friendship?