So quick disclaimer, this isn’t a woe-is-me post. This is moreso just me trying to figure out how to move forward. I grew up in a single household, and I’m fine. I just understand that I didn’t get as much intimacy as other children.
My latest fling was with someone I met on OLD. We talked for two months, and this was when I started to realize that I really wanted us to become close, cuddle, all of the crap once we moved past the month marker. It didn’t work out, but we ended things mutually. It wasn’t because of anything I did, but a trauma she needed to work through herself.
I recently learned that my mom is a narcisist, a criminal one at that. My biggest concern now, is dating for the right reasons. I don’t think approaching dating for this reason is the best idea, and I don’t want to put my crappy upbringing onto anyone else.
For anyone else who struggled with a narcisist parent, how did you get through this? How did you approach the intomacy issues, and how did you communicate them to your partners? I’m not trying to come off as some bany bird who fell out of the nest, I just want perspective moving forward.
Best!