Long story short, I’ve known my bf for a few years. We dated for a while and broke up for 2 years then got back together earlier this year. Well, I came across some disturbing videos of him on a podcast where he’s interviewing women with other men. In these videos he and the other men speak to the women horribly and there’s a lot of just disgusting conversations with these girls about sex, sex work, running trains, etc. Honestly I’m so appalled. He’s never spoken like that around me and doesn’t even cuss around me, nor has he ever in the years I’ve known him, but I’m just mortified. He treats me like an absolute princess. I just can’t help feeling disgusted. He doesn’t know that I came across this information and I feel like I can’t move forward without raising this to his attention. I don’t know how to bring this up or if I should be judging him for something that happened outside of our relationship???
This is a nightmare. I really want to marry him and I’m just mortified that content like that exists of him on the internet. I’m also upset that he never told me and that I stumbled upon it.