Hi, Ive never really been able to figure out how to make friends. Do to shit happening at home, I became a avoidant people pleaser instead of being myself. I also feel I’m not in the best area of the country to be making friends? People see to be pretty cold/not open to conversation in CT. So would being more vulnerable and moving to another state do the trick? I feel like I’m forever stuck inside of myself without any idea on how to build a connection. Thanks
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I get it, making friends is hard, esp as an adult . I suggest downloading the Meetup app and seeing if there are any meetups in your area for activities that interest you. That is a good way to meet people with similar interests.
You need to find places where you can see people regularly. (work, adult rec sports, volunteer group, hobby/interest club, outdoors group, exercise class, adult ed class, political action group, professional club, etc.) Then when you go regularly, be sure to have conversations with a few people each time you see them. Strike up a rapport over a course of several weeks to maybe a month or two.
Then once you feel comfortable you need to INVITE them to do something with you. Something simple like: grab a bite to eat, go for a walk or run, get a coffee, do an errand, shop for something, check out a new part of town, etc. After that you check in with them by text at least once a week to keep the connection going.
This procedure works no matter what state you’re in.