I, 36F, and my boyfriend, 42M, have been together for 4 months. Since the beginning of the relationship, I got the inclination that he could care less about foreplay and would rather get straight to sex. I have communicated multiple times that I love foreplay, I need it to get me going before the actual act. No matter how many times I’ve told him, the situation hasn’t gotten better. He usually doesn’t do anything or half-asses foreplay for about 1 minute and then he jumps into sex. Just last night he did initiate foreplay but it was about 1-2 minutes tops and then he jumps right into sex. It makes me feel like my pleasure isn’t worth it. He went down on me last night for I swear was a total of 30 seconds and I asked why did he stop and he said “I had to get some air,” and that was the end of that. He didn’t keep going. It made me feel really insecure. I asked if I smelled or tasted bad and he said that wasn’t the case. After sex I asked if my pleasure matters to him and he said “Yes but sometimes I get so excited that I want to dive straight into sex. I should’ve paid more attention to you.” He always says that. I feel neglected and used. I’m not sure how else to approach the topic anymore as I’ve communicated several times.
Advice would be appreciated. Thank you.