Howdy ya’ll, so to repeat the title, my gf needs a lot of clitoral stimulation to finish. She likes the stimulation to be aggressive too. My wrists/forearms/left hand coordination aren’t keeping up.
She hasn’t been very sexually explorative with herself or with other partners before, and has never had an internal orgasm. I’ve worked with her a few times to try and find her g spot but no bueno. Admittedly this could be a skill issue on my part as I’ve never really been explorative either.
I’m kind of stumped on how to proceed. We’ve tried a vibrator, which has worked, but she prefers my hands. It honestly worries me how hard & fast I have to rub her clit for her to finish. Like it’s TOO hard and could lead to desensitization? I don’t know shit though. It also seems like the spot she likes is above her actual clit.
She’s got a lot going on in her personal life and I don’t think she has the mental capacity or desire right now to commit to sexual self-discovery. I think the only time she feels sexual is with me.
I love her and want her to experience everything sex has to offer. I also fear dreading sex due to the wrist cramping. Does anyone have any advice on what to do about her finishing and how to better discover her internal orgasm?