EDIT FOR CONTEXT: We have been married for 3 years and we never really argue because I think I let him get away with a lot of BS. I am 100% financially reliant on him, I understand the comments about divorce but I will have no house, no husband, no friends (we share all the same friends), no money, and no purpose.
I let my husband record us sometimes because he has to be away for work a lot and he likes to watch it when he can’t actually see me. I found out today that he showed his best mate a video of me giving him head, while they were out drunk at the pub.
I’m really upset and I feel violated by it and I don’t know how many other people he’s showed now because they were out with a group, in public.
I found out because his best mates wife told me in confidence. She is really angry about it as well but I don’t know how to approach the conversation with my husband because she doesn’t want me saying anything because she wasn’t meant to tell me.
His wife told me ‘my husband came home and asked me why I don’t let him record head if (my name) let’s (my husbands name), I asked him what the fuck he meant, and then he told me that (my husband) had showed him a video of you giving him a blowjob.’
WHAT DO I DO?