My husband and I have this argument all the time.
He thinks that most people marry people who are either really close to their personality or who are exactly like them.
My husband and I are exact opposites. Married 23 years.
I appreciate his differences from me. They have made me a better person and it shows me that there are other ways to look at situations. It has also allowed me try things I would have never known my life tried without learning from him.
However, he thinks it is a huge negative that we are opposites. That people should marry people just like them which I think sounds boring.
I do try and get interested in the things he is in. I ask questions and/or say spend whatever you need on your hobby or whatever it is.
He is not interested in anything I like nor does he come with me to things I want to do like musicals and concerts. Occasionally he will come to a concert with me. I find friends who want to go and take them.
I said that when I talk to other married people they usually have married someone their exact opposite
He said that’s a myth and people don’t marry their opposites and opposites don’t attract.
So I wanted to ask a wider audience what their experience is.
If you married your opposite did it enrich your life?
ETA: For the most part are core values are in alignment. An example of our opposites that he gets bent about is like yesterday we had pizza and it was half what he wanted and half what I wanted. That was a huge deal for him and he said what should have happened was we had one pizza with the same toppings on all of it.