I'm in this distance relationship for 3 years now and we talk almost every days for hours on the phone/video. My bf works as a fashion advisor in very big woman luxury fashion brand.
Anyways, so I discovered recently he's following lots of woman, he has now over 15 woman followed and they followed him back too. I confronted him and told him, I saw you have lots of woman followed on Instagram and can you please explain this because I'm not feeling comfortable so he start cursing and telling me I'm sick/pyscho and said these are my coworkers why you are stalking my coworker. I told him, I'm not stalking or anything I'm just genuinely asking you because I want to have open communication and he start saying no you are crazy gf and acting like a teenager and that I'm getting obsessed with him and his account and that he's very disappointed on me and I told him it's okay follow coworkers but decrease these woman following then he said why you are crazily controlling me and my account and said (you want me to put myself in your world and unfollow them, you crazy).
This is what he said it really broke my heart and I because I don't want to lose him so I apologized to him if I misunderstood his account wrongly so we are back now but his behavior really changed and when I asked him he said because he's disappointed and this will not be fixed..
Im thinking of giving up on this relationship because I feel I'm really getting hurt by him and my intention was just to ask but now I'm seen as controlling sick crazy gf so I cannot tolerate this.
My heart really shuttered and I'm feeling really guilty. So since me asking is seen as a toxic trait:
I'm curious how my actions might have been perceived as toxic pyscho trait . Please share your thought as seeing your man following lots of Instagram women makes one feel insecure so I only asked I didn't accuse him on cheating or anything. How do I fix this relationship?