37m. Have had a few sexual partners, but only two where it went all the way. And only one where it felt good and like I was in effect when with her an "average" heterosexual male (it was a 10 year LTR, so definitely felt more comfortable with her over time)>
But not only do I like to take time and get to know someone properly and form a bond, a strong bond, I actively get disgusted by the thought of sex before said strong bond is formed.
And it's only properly happened once (again that 10 year LTR).
But someone I am now with, from the first time we did it (we took our time, I think it was after date 6 which for her was really too long haha and for me insanely too soon).
It seem she's had a dozen partners or so.
And yet, she's doing things, like letting me perform oral sex on her, performing oral sex on me, passionately tongue kissing for minutes and what seems like hours at a time and so on. We cuddle after sex, and don't even move away from each other a second after either of us orgasms.
Oh, I used to climax once and then not need to think about sex for months.
Now, I am climaxing with her multiple (like over 5) in the course of just 5-6 hrs.
She's claiming, this is the first time her orgasms last minutes, not seconds, and that she's having vaginal and clitoral orgasms at the same time and some kind of "body" orgasm she has, at present, no way to explain.
I recognize fully this post may come off as gloating, but I ask you kindly to think of someone like Spock saying all of this lol
I really have no fucking idea what is going on.
Never in my life did I think I'd make a post on this subreddit, let alone say the things I am saying.
Sex, a part from my scientific interest (have some kind of background in medicine/biology) and for health reasons (again worked in the medical field), was almost never a concern.
I feel zero disgust with her. And she says, she feels the same way and it has never happened to her before.
Can anyone tell me wtf is going on thanks lol
Happy to answer all and questions truthfully and transparently, btw, even if it makes me look crazy, or suggests red flags, or maybe even makes this all look like a rare but beautiful thing happening.
In other words, I am open to interpretations both bad and good, and again happy to shed as much light as I can.
Thank you for taking time to read. I appreciate how open, honest, and kind you all are when talking about sex (some sexual trauma of sorts/shame has also made me really uncomfortable talking about it; I've always wondered if that played some role in developing my demisexuality but that's just an aside).