Sooo I (23F) have been masturbating since I ever found out what my clit was. First with hands and then I upgraded to a vibrator. And for the past 3-5 years I can NOT finish during sex without using it on myself. I really want to stop but when I’m laying in bed it’s all I can think about doing and I can’t sleep without doing it even though it’s always unsatisfactory. And what makes things worse is these past few weeks I’ve been doing it multiple times a day (I used to only do it once a day or every other day) and it takes at least 20-30 minutes if not longer. I keep saying I’m just gonna throw it away but never do, it’s like a fucking addiction and I hate it.
I just want to be able to actually enjoy sex and finish without having to pull the vibrator out. I LOVE SEX but I will never be able to cum and fully enjoy it and it’s frustrating. I feel like I have the girl version of “death grip”. It’s really putting a damper on my ability to be in a relationship because sex is very important to me. My ex was fine with it but without him I’m really at a loss…
How can I make myself more sensitive and what are things I can do to distract myself from doing this so much? Most importantly how long will it take to get my sensitivity back?