Yesterday I found out my husband was texting with an old coworker (her name popped up in his laptop but I couldn’t see the content as it was locked). He has been looking for a job but it’s not on the same field as his old job, but supposedly he’s using her as a reference and he needed to reach out to her for some help.
Last year I was helping him with looking for something and I decided to check a gym bag he had full of random stuff, and I found an old birthday card she had wrote for him (when they worked together). I got mad that he still had it.
I read her name and then remembered that I had already caught him texting her. When I confronted him, he just told me it was an “older lady” and that they used to be good friends, but that’s it. But yesterday I did some research and I found out she’s actually pretty young and not ugly at all. I don’t get why he lied to me, it’s pointless if he’s not doing “anything wrong”.
I’m 6 months pregnant and feeling very emotional, I’m afraid of him cheating on me. Ever since we found out I was pregnant, my husband stopped being intimate with me (he finds it weird). I don’t try to initiate anymore because I used to do it before (his sex drive has always been low) and I would always get rejected, so now I don’t even bother. Sometimes I feel very lonely, sometimes we sleep in separate rooms because he prioritizes his dogs sleeping in our bed and I just don’t feel comfortable anymore with my pregnant belly.
I feel very sad and defeated, and I don’t know what to think, any advice?