Is asking by bf to flirt and tease me before touching me sexually too much to ask?

We had a few conversations about it but nothing really changes. Like im not horny in a spontaneous way and believe me, i tried to during many years. He needs to get me there slowing during the day and make me think of sex with him BEFORE eating my pussy. Can guys do that and are into the flirt and the tease to build up the lust or is it just a fantasy in litterature 😅