hi on throwaway because my boyfriend knows my reddit. we’ve been dating for over 6 months now and our sex life is pretty good usually. however since a few months ago he’s been rly into the idea of anal even though we said we’d never do that. i wasn’t rly enthusiastic abt that idea and my responses to him bringing it up was always like “you’re silly” or “idk”.
and ever since a few months ago when we’d be having sex he would put his finger around it and try to put his finger in it. this was really uncomfortable for me but i was down to try just once especially because he really wanted to. so once day we tried and although he was really kind and patient it just didn’t work out and i told him to stop after it barely went in because it hurt. afterwards he said we don’t ever have to do that again. (but he would still do that finger stuff during sex like before)
and the other night for our anniversary i planned for a lil romantic getaway and set up everything. when we got the place we were staying we had sex and he also did the finger thing and this time went all in and i pushed his hand away i feel like multiple times. nonetheless, after a few mins of pnv he asked if we could do anal. and i said yes. and he went slow and stuff and it hurt and i just was laying there quiet. i pretty much just told him to finish in there for it to end. but after i felt pretty bad because i know i didn’t want it.
i would say he’s a pretty good boyfriend otherwise but to be honest there’s many other issues and im gonna bring these and the one i just spoke about on here to him when he gets back from a trip. i would like advice on what happened and what would be the best way to tell him how i feel.
TLDR; boyfriend been trying to do anal for a while even though ive said i dont like it. and ended up doing it despite me pushing him away.