I want to self reflect a little bit. I’ve been called out twice for “not putting in the effort”.
However, I must note that I knew both women for a month and we texted almost daily. For me personally, if we are not exclusive and you’re still seeing/talking to other people, it seems unfair to expect boyfriend treatment from me.
I always tell people I have adhd and that at worst I’ll get back to them at the end of the day. Last gal got mad when I didn’t text her last Saturday. She told me she was going to a baby shower so I didn’t text her until that night hoping she had a great day.
She later confessed that baby showers make her sad because all her friends are getting married and she is single and what not. And while I try to be supportive with people I date, I was thinking “I really doubt she’d listen to me about my troubles like this. I don’t really know this perosn”(2 dates)
Idk maybe I’m jaded but I have a hard time between wanting to be supportive and also not be used as an emotional sponge. Any advice? Like I talk to relatives a couple times a week so this everyday texting with people from tinder is super draining for me