this has happened throughout my life and i'm starting to realize it might be the reason why i never feel like im good enough.
every acceptance, scholarship, award that i've won and told my mom about has always felt invalidating. she always brings up the fact that my brother works hard too, he could've also won the scholarship and awards i did if he didn't have ADHD, etcetc.
everything has always been about him. I'm not sure if it's her way of defending him because he struggled with ADHD in the past and didn't do as well in school as i did, but it just feels like no matter what i do, she makes it known that he could've done the same.
tldr: my mom constantly talks about my brother whenever i bring up my accomplishments, telling me that he could’ve done the same.
has anyone else experienced this? how do i bring this up to her? she can be really defensive at times.